There is a certain subset of advice that, for some reason, we all refuse to learn through instruction. No matter how arduous or costly or effortful it's going to be for us to find out for ourselves, we prefer to disregard the mountains of warnings that we get from our elders ... And instead, we think some version of, yeah, that might be true for them but not for me. We decide to learn the hard lessons the hard way over and over again.