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Roosevelt said do one thing every day that scares you and author. Wayne Dyer said if you believe it'll work out, you'll see opportunities. If you don't believe it'll work out, you'll see obstacles. My guest today is Tony Robbins, who is a massive personality entrepreneur? Number one best-selling author, philanthropist and the nation's, number one life in business strategist. Over the past four decades, he has empowered more than 50 million people worldwide through
Business and personal development coaching programs, and events. I've had the privilege of having Tony on the podcast multiple times in the past. So if you enjoyed this episode make sure to check out the others in the show notes as well. And in this episode, we discussed the three habits Tony wishes. He knew in his 20s and 30s also. Why loving yourself is not the secret to success. The key to stacking the positives in your life and what that can do for you, why you're raising your kids to be more insecure and unsafe.
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Welcome back. Everyone to the school of greatness. I'm very excited about our guest, mr. Tony Robbins is in the house. Good to see you. Tony. Good to see you. That's how are you? I'm doing good. Every time I get the chance to interview. This is interview number four. Now for the show with you. The last three interviews have done, over six million views have changed, millions of people's lives. We've done them on your plane. We've been in hotels, and now we're virtually here and Ever every time.
I get to interview you, I have a ritual, you may not remember, but I've told the story of how I first saw you in person. So I want to tell it really quickly. So I set the context here is about 22 years ago. My dad bought myself and my mom tickets to an event and used to host that was like a big three day conference success. All these great speakers came actually. Trump was there Larry King, was there all these great football coaches, it was in st. Louis Missouri.
And you came down on stage at one point. I'm sitting about halfway back in the arena on the floor level and you came off stage and walk down. I remember vividly, there was a song. Don't worry, be happy. That was playing. I don't even know if you remember this part of your speech, remember that? Yes, you came down. I mean, I'm sure you had this story at all your events but you came down off this song. It came down, you stop right next to me. I'm probably 50 yard line back at the arena. So halfway back, you stop right over me. You don't. Look at me. You look out.
You say something that a crowd I have no clue what you said but I remember the energy you possess you possess in that moment and I was like I want to have that confidence one day and that energy and that's that moment is stuck with me for the last 22 years. I would acknowledge you for constantly being an inspiration to not only myself but millions of people around the world from your way of from your way of being the way you open your heart in the way you see other people. So I really, really appreciate your consistent your consistency over.
Were the four plus Decades of work? And my first question is, what is it like being a father of a
daughter? Yes, I I'm 61 which I can't believe I'm 61, but I think God, I feel better than I did when I was 30 physically and I train harder and stronger and psychologically better. So yes, I just have a brand-new daughter. I have five grandkids that are older than my daughter and I've got five kids in total. My oldest is 54 and my youngest now is four weeks to
Tomorrow. So it's it's beautiful. She's the greatest gift and she was a rainbow baby. We tried so many different ways so we're just so so grateful to have her and keeping her life out of social media, certainly mention her but we don't your pictures and I'll talk about her name. Just to give her a little bit of space from What machines like where everybody's trying to get likes for something. I don't want my daughter to have that habit. So we're going to give her her space there but it's very kind of you to ask and there's no greater gift. I'm you know anybody was a father or a mother out there knows nothing anything else you expect?
Variants in life. Nothing comes
close. What? And what's the biggest lesson, she's taught you in these first few
weeks, she's already restructured my life, like no one else has. I mean, I can sit there and hold her and obsess about her. And I don't like 40 minutes ago by and I'm just staring into her eyes. You know, that kind of thing. So she's put a little balance in me, that's for sure. And, and, you know, also, you know, I've I like you, I'm obsessed with being fit and strong and alive, is required for what I do and to do it at the quality of want to do. 444
Years plus, and I plan to do it for a lot longer. So, but, you know, when I started thinking about her life, I'm 61, I remember telling my wife. I said, I'm not having a kid after 50. I said, I'm not gonna be, you know, you know, 80 years old, but the kids high school graduation so forth. But now it's like for me to see her 30. Plus, I got to be 90 plus. So I'm, you know, I'm well on my way to making sure that happened, but it's giving me even greater
incentives. I love that for all the young people here who are maybe they're just
From their first kid and they're in their late 20s. Early 30s around that range. What are the three habits are skills? You wish you would have known, then that you wish all of them start to learn at this age in their
life. The tough one because I think at every stage your life, you look at life differently. So it's hard to tell someone in their 20s, how they should be till they've experienced certain things. There are certain things they just be words, but if I was going to give a couple habits, I'd say the first habit is to not judge yourself too hard because I think that's what young people do a lot. And I think people
Of all ages, you know, when you're 61 years old, you've lived as much life as I have a little less Judgment of myself in this area, you know. It's now make everything life and death because then the kid feels that it isn't all life and death. You know, where my I got to be honest. I thought when my daughter's crying is like I hate anybody in pain, you know, that was kind of just Pierce me and make life so difficult. But fortunately everyone she doesn't cry. Just like I told my wife. I don't know how this kid came from us, cause this kid is so Zen. She cries when she's got to go, the bathroom and he was kind of diaper. She cries when she's hungry but, oh, I she's
He's in, but the crying. And then is different for me now. So it's not life and death are not hyper, judgmental of it. And then, the third thing is decide what's most important that you want for your child, the two or three, most important things for me is that child feels so incredibly loved, and for me, not yet. But as a child develops, its developing a sense that life is something that's calling to you, to give something, not to get something. I think. If I could give any lesson to my child, it's the lesson of contribution, which makes life so meaningful. The depth of relationship that comes
Having such a deep love. I think those two things are the minimum, but you've got to decide. What do you want for your child? Because, you know, they're their own being, you're gonna have your plans, how you think they should be and then they're going to be how they are, right? And but what you can shape is their value system and not every individual value, but the global values that you know, that life is a balance that of course you're going to go to extremes but balance is how the body maintains its how life gets in balance is like look for that. It's like life is not about me, it's about we that life is calling to you to give
Something don't ask what your country is asking for. You is, you know, a Democratic president once said, what do you do if your country we kind of lost that theme not only in our country but in our parenting. And so I see a lot of kids today that are like they're one of my one of my parent doing for me. I could never imagine that thought in my life, my whole thing is like not where my what can I do for? My parents was my focus, you know what can I do? And all those little patterns lead to a life that is more meaningful and fulfilling, but I don't think over-controlling is not going to get you where you want to go.
My history because this isn't my first rodeo. I got four children before that three of which I adopted. So I was 24 and had a 17 year old son, instantly an eleven-year-old a five-year-old and one on the way. So you learn to grow differently. And, you know, my former spouse who have those skills, you've been married twice before me. So they were from different parents and so I adopted them on brought in my life. Probably got some of the greatest growth in my life from that experience of parenting.
And and for those that grew up and don't feel like they got the love, they wanted or the love, they deserve to the love their respose to have or whatever. And people haven't learned how to love themselves whether it be because they didn't get from their parents, so they didn't learn it. How can they learn to love themselves later in their life when they never really felt it?
I think this idea of loving yourself as a cultural Obsession has no basis in reality, and here's the challenge, when you're born, what do you got to do to be loved now?
But because your mother's on drugs, natural dogs, oxytocin. So, you look like a lizard, she thinks you're beautiful, you know, you're fat, you should all over you throw up in. You're still beautiful right? For a while your unconditionally love and thank God. We want to survive otherwise I'm so I love women so much. I have so much respect for women even more. So going to birth again. No man will ever fully appreciate what a woman does or what a baby demands a mother if you're breastfeeding and the energy and the most sleep, I mean it's just it's amazing what
A man doing our life. But the point is in the beginning, I do nothing. And then the oxytocin wears off and suddenly you do the same scream or yell or throw your food. Now you get yelled at or hit or the worst, one of all you get ignored and then fear enters your body and then the rest of your life you're looking for, how can I get this unconditional love? And I remember in the beginning asking myself because I studied all animals. And with the level of dependency they have and you know, human beings are the longest period of dependency for survival of any creature other than other primates whales will be
And it for a year birds for a few weeks and boom, get your ass out there and fly, you know, it's a different world. We have this long dependency. It's just the nature of how we are and I thought to myself. So why, why don't we just have unconditional love all the time? And I think my answer is because then you never grow or give anything the life. You think everything is about you. And unfortunately, there are large population of kids. There were raised in a generation of parents. Their helicopter parents thought, everything should be about the child, and they wonder why they're selfish today or why they, you know.
No, don't seem to have great relationships, where you got to be with somebody else. We got to put somebody else out of you. That's what love is. Love is putting someone else ahead of yourself, loving yourself. Usually comes from most human beings by starting to have a value and just appreciating people not because of what they do, not because of what they have, just because you feel their Essence and it's easy to do that with somebody you love and it's with yourself. But when you start to with somebody else and you're not judging your truly loving them, then it's much more natural because you're already.
Loving, you're not getting it from somewhere else. Someone may say something looking a certain way as a trigger, but all of the self, loving this bullshit. I don't love myself. You've ever been someone who felt loved, you loved yourself. They didn't love you. They said something they did something with her eyes and you use that as a trigger to release love inside of you. But loving yourself, every moment. All the time is not the secret to success, having appreciation for yourself as different than constantly loving. Now in the Bible says love thy neighbor as thyself. So I think it's a worthy goal and it's useful.
But most people are obsessed with it and I think get on about living a life that's meaningful and you'll love yourself. As long as you focus on you, you're not going to love you because the human brain is always looking for. What's wrong? What to protect? What needs to be changed? It's a survival Instinct. And so it's looking for things to fight, or flight, or try to freeze or pretend you're not there about yourself. But when you're in a bit of service, when you're trying to start something, more than yourself, that's when the higher part of your Consciousness is there, that's when your heart is flowing, and when you're doing that,
Thinking about you and therefore you feel loved. And I can tell you my own experience. I've I don't have to no one else to have to earn love with me, but my strategy has been. I got to earn my own love, right? I gotta be worthy of my own love. I don't do that. Somebody
else. How do you do that
by helping millions of people for 44 years? Now, I'm finding the stage. Well, yeah, I fucking love myself. I went there, I enjoy myself, appreciate it, but along the way I've always earned it. Now I don't think that's necessary.
Healthy or not. But I like what it's done with me. If I know people that just think they're God's gift to creation and they don't have anybody to any other human being. They're assholes to be around, they love themself so I just I would challenge that whole belief system. I'd say it's appreciating yourself. It's loving the people around you and the more you can Unconditionally Love others. The more you unconditional Have Yourself by trying to start with yourself when you're not doing with others. Forget it'll never
happen. Was there ever a moment where you didn't Unconditionally Love Yourself and
So and if so, when did that shift where you stopped that and you started saying, okay, I appreciate myself because of my contribution in my service and who I am, what was that shift?
I don't think it was ever, I just didn't love myself. There are times, obviously be angry with yourself or frustrated or sell for thinking of not doing enough. I mean, I can remember, my birthday is to be honest with you, probably up to my 40th birthday, including my 40th birthday and, you know, you have a birthday with a zero on it. Once you're over the past 30, 35, sometimes Five Years on it,
As well. People look at their life differently, culturally and I'm sure and I think it was Bull, but sure enough, I would do it. I remember turning 40 and I was really, really unhappy. I was like Jesus, I've not done enough. I'm not help enough people. I don't tens of millions of people that point already in ton all over the Earth than a hundred plus countries at that point, but it was still kind of stuck in my head so I would earn the Love by over-delivering change somebody's life. Like I don't get it because somebody says oh well I love you Tony. I mean I appreciate that or oh you're the greatest. It's
My standard my standards higher than their standard for me. Right? So when I get up in someone's going to kill themself and it's they're suicidal and bumped her either. No longer not going to kill himself but they're transform their life is there, you know, that's what I do. Okay, now we've hit the center of what I made for now, you know, I deserve to feel this euphoric feeling Within Myself and appreciation and even then I still know. It's God. Coming through me. I don't have the delusion, it's just me, but I think sometime after 40, I finally saw the stupidity of it, I
Accumulated enough that I looked at life with fresh eyes. And I can say, by the time I turned 60 a year ago, I noticed it was interesting because my birthday, I had enough of an ounce of it. I was just like, you know, how could I at this stage of my life when I've had the privilege of serving so many humans in so many contexts, you know, from turning around, you know, guys, going to kill himself a PTSD to helping kids turn around to getting kids off, cocaine or adults to, you know, help people, build multi-billion dollar businesses from nothing. And when I looked,
Long, I can't go by without hearing half a dozen stories, a day or dozen stories a day from people telling me how something I did change your life. So it's not that. I'm so smart now it's just I've stacked it. By the way, both stacking is the way you can do things. Most of us stack the negative. If you are really angry, it's not used because it just the moment. It's been, it happen again. You know, it's like if you've ever lost it or overreacted, to your kid or to a friend, or business, or even within yourself, it's because it happened again. We hit this one.
One, two, three, many point, and then our nervous system overreacts. But what I've learned is you can stack the good. And, but, for example, if you're, if you go into a state of really strong anger for more than 5 minutes, your immune system is suppressed between an hour and a half to two hours. That's a physiological fact, but no one has done this study. I started stacking good. Like okay. Let me stack a dozen, great memories, feel them? See them experience them and I felt this biochemical change. The dim just laugh a half hour, an hour or 10 minutes. It went on for a day or two.
And so, I think I've learned as fact, the good, so, just having the experience is not enough, you got to stack the good to be able to appreciate it, but I think just come back to the main point here from my perspective, which could be completely full, just my perspective. So, I want to point that out. I think the more you find unconditional love for others, the easier, it is to finding yourself. And I think the focus is serving and loving and that's what will get you the point where you start doing it. But if you want to speed it up stack all the good you've done, you'll feel great.
About
yourself. I already know all the comments that have come through. Thousands of comments. Tell me what. What about my family that's toxic. What about my partner? Who is toxic and how do I love someone unconditionally when they don't respect me? I can't trust them. What about
situations? Like these reactions are natural human reactions from ego, because it's all about you. Me, me me, what I'm not getting, what I'm not doing and that's why you're in pain.
And so I'm not telling like I haven't done this. I've done it too in the past, but it's an old pattern, I don't really do anymore and it used to affect me now, not a dominant one. I wouldn't have become who I become early in my life. I developed this belief that life is calling not to give me. Something wife is calling for meeting deliver things for me to bring something to life. And I felt the joy that came from not getting, but giving, and I got hooked on that core pattern. And then the pattern of learning,
Might have something to give which I know when things I respect about you, Louis is that you are that same pattern in your you're always trying to learn more because Underneath It All. You also want to give it you want it, you want it for you but you want to share it, right? And so those patterns help me, not be and what they're not giving and all this language language today, people don't understand the power of their language like toxic
What the hell are you talking about? Even white reading too much social media and thinking about yourself, or somebody raised you to constantly judgment else. We live in a culture now, where people, you know, you're evil or you're like me. That's because that's right. The whole world. Everybody else doesn't more unless they do what you do. Think, what you think experience you think? I mean being a liberal, I was a liberal right being a liberal growing up. Met you. I would I would fight for your ability to say and believe whatever you want different than me today. Now I really want somebody
The same thing otherwise they're evil or otherwise they could hurt me. What about this sticks and stones will break your bones but words will never hurt me. We have this whole thing that words are evil. Words are action word. It's both and all it does is make you incredibly weak as a human being, and you're more than that. We all are more than that. But you know what? Like a kid that's never broken. Their bones. Definitely afraid of breaking the bone, but if your kid and your rough-and-tumble, you broke multiple bonds, they heal your already fear of it.
There's so many kids have been raised to be safe and secure every moment anything that's insecure unsafe they don't want to be a part of including language and what it does is make you incredibly weak and fearful and that's why there's so many people that are abundant that are angry all the time because anger is they're not growing. So don't get me wrong, I know some people are not a good influence. I'm not denying that. I'm just saying you're more than somebody's influence, unless you obsess about it. Every moment and make them wrong. So you can make yourself feel Superior.
You're morally psychologically or spiritually and it's bullshit. Stop the pattern, we've all done, it catch yourself because if you want joy, happiness and freedom, and extraordinary life, he will not come from Blaine. Never. There's no Pride that comes from blank. I don't mean fake Pride. Will you make up to feel good? I'm talking about real pride. Pride is something you earn like, people tell me. Oh, I have no self-esteem because my parents used to say this, or they'd say that, I'd say that's such bullshit. I'm not saying it didn't say that.
I said it's bullshit. That's why you and your self-esteem. Self-esteem does not come from what people say about you. So, the steam comes from what you experience about yourself. See someone tell your whole life, you're a piece of crap, and her part of you go, you're full of it. I'm going to show you. Lots of people have done that. They never bought it or someone tell you a beautiful, your life. You go. I'm not really beautiful. So what people tell you doesn't matter at all, it's what you stack, it's what you assemble. It's what you create. It's the habit of what you put in your head. And today, I don't blame
Because we got a whole culture. That's always blaming somebody else for something in their life but blame is not a strategy for Pride, that's why you listen. He's blaming people, they're all Angry all the time.
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Listen, if I want to blame, I grew up in an environment. I didn't even share it to my mom passed. And even then, I didn't share, I grew up in a pretty rough environment. My mom was a beautiful soul, but when she drank alcohol and she mixed it with prescription drugs, it was a different creature, and it was a violent creature. And I have a younger brother, five years younger, and a younger sister, seven years younger. And my mom would get nuts, and I didn't want them to get hurt. So, I was five. When in high school, she grabbing my hair and smash me against the wall till I bled.
I never shared this, and I'm not denigrating her in any way. I only shared it, like, four or five years after she died, because I was talking to a group of kids in New York City. All without father's, 80 percent African-American about 20 percent, Hispanic out of the group, roughly no white kids, and I'm talking about your biography is not your destiny and it doesn't matter what you've been through. What you decide now, is what's going to control your life, what you decide each day, going forward to decide your life. And I look at him, seeing me, I could.
Read their minds, this big tall, white rich, guys, going to tell me biography doesn't matter. So I said you, let me tell you my story and I told him the whole story way, more than I'm telling you and everyone was crying her eyes out when they're done. I said, look, where I am right now because I wouldn't assemble the story that my past equals my future, the past only cause you future. If you live there if using a rearview mirror to guide yourself, you're gonna crash. So what you've been through is horrific, what you've been through is unjust, I'm on your side.
But if you hang onto it, you have no future and you have no one to blame, but yourself and these kids to their credit, man. They just responded to the challenge because they first cry, their eyes out. Hearing all the stories. My mom would think I was lying and I wasn't lying. She poured liquid soap down my throat and I threw up and I wasn't lying, so it's not the physical abuse. It's the fact that this is the person you love most. It's trying to hurt you that messes with your head. So I kinda messed up for life that I didn't.
Because something inside me says, I'm responsible for this life. And part of that is because I started reading, when I was 13, 14 biographies of people, the greatest people in history and reading their lives and finding out guess what? Their lives were far from perfect. Some of them had worse life than I had.
When you have no reference and all you just go online, you talk to other people making everybody else toxic and I'm like this. And they didn't do that, then you get to have this shitty life. Just like those are the people who are the online so much because they don't have a
life,
right? Don't be one of those free yourself from the chains of your past. I'm not saying your past doesn't matter, but listen my mother. I tell people this all the time and it's the truth.
If my mother had been the mother, I wanted to be the mother. She should have been, I will not be the man. I'm proud to be today because I had to become a practical psychologist way before any schooling figure out when she going to go on the moon, how do I change her State high protector for the kids? What are you? I mean it was felt life and death and it wants to some extent. So I develop skills at such a young age. They want, I learned things. I just added to my skills but I had a core sense of certainty and I could turn anybody.
Because it started with my mother and thank God for her. And she encouraged me in so many ways. She did so many great things and she loved me, even though it didn't look like it at times.
So right,
but if your parents, if the people around, you said all the things you thought they should have, if they had just not been toxic at they'd encouraged you, you would have any muscle and right now you have any muscle, could you use that as the excuse if you're thinking that and I'm not attacking you, brothers and sisters? I'm calling to you because I know you're more. Otherwise I just keep my mouth.
Mouth shut. We're just, you've been hypnotized by a culture of weakness. Now, having said that, I'll say one. Last thing I know you have a lot of the questions, but so important, when you laugh,
Yes, there are people. You don't want to hang out with that will not serve you.
But then move on. Don't sit there and talk about it constantly. Don't waste your time and you say, but what if it's family Tony - family too, you learn to grow. You go there in my life, someone can get your goat. If someone can piss you off, if someone can make you feel less than
That's God. Coming to you saying grow, you need some spiritual growth. There's got to be some change in your perception, your belief, your emotions, your spiritual. Look of life. So that can't happen anymore. And when it happens like, that 61, I've been to so many of those things and I like do things in Mass I took on big challenges, so I have to grow more.
But then life throws him at you two and they come, you just got, okay, it's gonna have me until I grow. What needs a shift in me? So that no longer has an impact. But, you know, Jerome used to say my original teacher used to say, Tony. What happens if I've got a cup of coffee here and he'd say, what if your worst enemy drops sugar in your coffee, what's going to happen? And I go, you know, sweet coffee. And he goes what if your best friend, your mother, your father, your brother, your sister, your loved one drops, one drop of strict Nat. I said you'd be dead. He goes, That's Right. Life is most sugar and
Types of watch your coffee is whole thing was stand guard at the door of your brain, but some people take her to go, oh my God, you can kill me. It was a metaphor. These people are not so toxic, they're toxic. Could you give them energy. So if your mom's crazy and constantly criticizing you and it drives you nuts. Just go, that's my mom. That's her way of showing love and I'm finding New Perspective and no matter what she does. Just stay in a beautiful state and love honor and think, boy, I think of all that she cares and feels for all that she's frustrated in life are all that she's going through. That's made of this.
Sway. Think I don't have to go through this. I can love her. It's like your growth is the only limit to your happiness.
If you're not happy, you're not growing in some area. And usually it's a place where you're blaming your pointing the finger. I don't care if it's government, don't get me wrong. People can be unfair unjust. That's for sure happens. But you can't control that you can't make it not happen. Well, you have to do is become stronger than any of it. So you're free Freedom comes from growth. Freedom does not come from control because controls an illusion. You can't control everybody. No matter how hard you try, you can't control what they think, or feel and not.
Nobody's going to be fair and Justin, you, my dear friends and I have not always been fair and just what do we admit it or not? It's just the nature of being a being a human being, but we can make the largest pattern fair and just and loving and powerful and serving and growing until it becomes the dominant thing. Inside you, and then you experience life is being great, not your great life's great, because you're living a great
path. It seems like what I'm seeing and hearing from. A lot of people that this past year
Everything is falling apart for them, their health, their relationships, their finances, their mission, or purpose, and these their spiritual awareness. Like, every area of life has been in Breakdown mode for for some people, not everyone, some people have had incredible lives and then stepped up to the occasion and broken through and all these things. But I'm seeing a pattern of a lot of people breaking down in many areas hypothetical scenario. Let's say, you could only focus on one thing to get you started, you only have the time and energy to focus on one of these are
As your health, your relationships are all breaking down your finances, your in failing failing everywhere. Where should people lean into first to kind of create that foundation? So that everything else can start to rise as well?
I think, before you answer what to do you're going to answer while you're
there. Mmm.
It is not because the pandemic.
I remember when 9/11 happened and people tell, oh, my God. Are my wife was destroyed because of 9/11 and there were people in the same building who turn their life around became grew spiritually, good closer to their family, made their businesses larger and the same building burned down, right? I know, in my case, you know, 9/11 comes, if you can imagine, you know, I'm fortunate to have now more than 80 companies and all these different Industries and obviously, you know, done pretty darn well, but by most people's standards of business in life. But my core
Is what I do for a living. That's why I'm here talking to you right now is getting people to be free and alive and have the level of fulfillment that they deserve to have. I know they desire, but I also believe they deserve to have, but to deserve to have it, you got to do certain things, right? And so you're not in the place of being overweight because you lost your job. So, stop, the bull blame blame is not a strategy for a meaningful life. Blame is not a strategy for greatness. So you got to resolve that number one and then use your question was, what's the one thing to focus on? If you only focus on what I think,
Look to focus on one thing. Primarily focus on too many can be overwhelming other people, it's so it's good to focus on multiple things, it depends on your personality. So I wouldn't presuppose. But then the answer would be. Whichever thing you're most desirous of changing, whatever thing is giving you the most pain. So if it's your relationship, I'd go full force on that. Now in the world were in today, you know, you don't usually have the privilege of going. Okay, I want to work on just being happy. Well, I can change it. Be happy. While hell's breaking loose, you can sit in this chair and beat.
Totally euphoric, but if you do that in Western culture, people come and take your furniture, right? So you probably have to work on both of your business, or financial side, and some personal side, I would be working on both and to me the way to attack that if you're not sure, which areas to start with the body. And I know you can relate to this Louis, because you and I both share this in common. It's like I always teach physiology first, as you. Well, know, if you change, the body will change the emotions. You to change the emotions. You'll change your decisions. You will change the quality of your life because the quality of life is your emotions.
If I were to get another billion dollars and commit suicide people have done it, right. You can't have beautiful relationships and commit suicide. You can have people loving you and be sad over time. Our pattern of emotion is our home and you have to upgrade your home, you have to train it. And one way to train it is, the emotion comes the way you move. The way you, breathe, the way you speak. So, if I said to your listeners, there's a depressed person behind the curtain over here, and I'll give $100,000 to their favorite.
Do you think to describe their body their posture and they're depressed? You tell me, I'll just use the example. What does that person look like?
They're thus lunch down there. Looking down at their feet. They're not looking upward their their soldiers are over there.
Are they breathing Fuller shallow? Do you
think they're
shallow? They talking faster, slow?
They're talking probably if they're depressed. They're probably talking fast because they're not calm.
Well, no, that's usually stressed depressed is different. They're
stressed, that's not, they're probably talking.
Talking low, volume slower than
and all those physical characteristics change about chemistry towards this feeling of being depressed and in depressed state, you won't do anything when I used to be depressed. I don't get any more, I just took it out of my life, I even took the language of it out of my life because the word you create create a biochemical response. But when I did that decades ago because I was like, having those thoughts, like is there a reason to still be here that kind of crazy in your head. I got out of it by using anger. Originally, I'd much like sometimes, if somebody's really
Depressed, I'll make him angry be like, what's he doin? He's making me angry because angry is much more resourceful than depressed from anger. I can't handle after I can get you to taking action and so, and then gradually. I got why didn't need anger? It was about growth. It was about contribution was about me, so, there's like stages to go through. But to answer your question, they should work on both their business side of the life and personal one of each. And in order for either one of those, the work you need to be in a strong, emotional state. And if you start with your body like, you know, I start every morning in my cold water, starting morning with my workout. I started every morning. I
Feeding my mind, right? So there's certain things you got to do physically. So you're strong enough to remember the truth because remember fear is physical, you feel you throw to your gut so it's courage. Courage, is it me? You're not afraid. It just means you're strong enough. You push through in spite of the fear, right? And courage feels different in the body. So when you go lift or you go for a Sprint or a strong run, or you jump in that freezing water. When you push, your mind, you go beyond what's comfortable. You feel a strength inside you, and that strength will help you to change your body, your emotions, relationships, whatever. But then the other night,
Is model someone who's successful. Don't just do this by trial and error like find somebody who has what you want. Ideally may be more than one person, two or three and Sagat. What are they doing different than you and their relationship? What do they believe different than you about relationship? If it's their body, what do they do? And if they're not lucky, they're doing things differently, you might be slightly biochemically different, but there's patterns there that you can see. And so, instead of learning by trial and error, which can take decades, you may never learn, Jim Rohn, taught me.
Success. Leaves Clues, man. Find someone's got what you want Study, what they do every aspect of it and then add yourself to it. And that's the pathway to speed of transformation. So now what, you know I've done it, I'm not the only person. There's so many companies that went from worse off than they've ever been in their history to the best off because they found a way to Pivot but that required a psychological piece of not blame. So maybe it's time for you to think for yourself and model what works. And stead of just what you're told. That's something.
Sooner for
yourself.
It's one of the reasons you've got millions of people that model after you just like myself and many areas of my life I've got three final questions. Is that okay to ask a final question? Okay. We want to be respectful of your time since we're at the top of the iris, when you make sure I'm good you mentioned. I had you know I had the opportunity to go to Fiji with you and Dean grathios had a group of people about a year and a half ago and you mentioned that winter was coming, this wasn't 2019 I guess or yeah. Right before.
20, and you mentioned winter is coming, I don't know how where, what, what type of Crisis is happening, but something's going to happen it, maybe in six months and maybe in the next few years, but something is happening. And from people that went through 9/11 to the housing crisis of 2008-2009 to then 2020, what would you say if people want to prepare themselves to create more financial abundance over the next 10 years?
With winter coming, maybe again, sooner than later. What should people be focusing on in order to earn more and invest more so that they're not overwhelmed financially with the next winter?
Well, first of all, I want to acknowledge that every generation. If there's a book, everyone should read, is called the fourth turning. It's not a great read. I'll be honest with you, in advance, I read it 25 years ago, one of the most seminal books I've ever read Because what it will show you is that every generation goes to different
They just a wintertime. A really, really rough time. A springtime, like, after the rough times, we usually see this easy growth, you know, a summer. We're kind of working our done, seen the reward and then a fall. We're all the awards show up in a major level but those Seasons which, maybe, 10, 20 years are a way of thinking, for some people, those Seasons happen in their youth, some midlife some later because there's a cycle of History, it's thousand years of History, you can study, it's fascinating market, right? Explain it right now. But if you want perspective, it's there.
The generation. You're speaking of the millennial generation, very special generation. I don't mean special like you're so special special because they have a unique place in human history. They've experienced certain shocks at a certain time. They are an archetype of one of the four seasons of Life. The last one is called the Great generation. Think about this. If you're born in the year, say 1900 1901 1902, something like that. When you're coming of age, 20 years old, when you want to think about your life and where it's going and all that stuff, right? But since 1910, excuse me.
You coming of age. If you're born in 1910 the stock market crashes, the biggest depression in human history. At least that we're aware of modern history happens. You know, 50% of people seem to be losing their jobs. There seems to be no hope whatsoever, right? As you're coming to your early Prime, going to make things happen, I'll South 1929 what happens a decade later when you're about to turn 30 another seminal time in your life, World War II breaks out.
Holy shit. Oh, we're like to turn it over, we're talking about World War all over the Earth. And it looks like Hitler's gonna win. And that we're gonna have Nazism everywhere and countries are dropping like flies and the economy's going through the floor and you just turned 30. Guess what? At 40, the greatest bull market in the history of the world began for that generation, but they were so testing. So, strong from everything they've been through. But then they
Tested by their own kids who didn't have to go through that suffering to thought, life should be easy for them and said, look at you, you're not balanced, you are fair to women and they weren't, but they were busy fighting Wars to get to the part where you have time to do this. Like see people say you know art for the sake of Art's Sake is for the well-fed, right? You know it's like you know these people have a different route and so that it's not like challenges disappear
But they're called the Great generation because they found their way through those things because it was generation that was not taught to look for excuses. I think the millennial generation is the next great generation if they play their cards, right? And I think there's enough great people in that generation to help lead a new direction for it. And I think there's technology allows them to connect a new ways. But technology unfortunately also pits them against other people because if you've seen the social dilemma, you know, there are people manipulating your brain and your biochemistry and your dopamine.
Now, so, but I think they'll figure that out. I think they really will now be answered your question.
I want to give back context because without the context, all this is about survival or doing, okay, for yourself. And I think you're not going to feel a great life, just trying to take care of stuff. Don't get me wrong. It's like if you know the Indian tradition in India that they teach, though, these four aims of Life, the first aim is artha a rth a and what that means is prosperity and security but it's important to take care of that because when that Prosperity security is there, it's not like that's not spiritual taken care of yourself and your family as part of life. And so you need to do that.
And then the next level of develop next aim of life is Comic aama and that means pleasure and it's good to find pleasure in like if you found good work that serves more than yourself you're going to prosper but then do you enjoy it and you enjoy your life and you appreciate things and it's like finding that appreciation isn't just sensuality or sexuality. It's music, it's art, it's family, it's all these things. It's the history of your own country and finding the good, right? And then the third level for that, most people heard of as Dharma, which is, you know,
Your purpose or your truth but notice you really don't have a real clear Darman. Most people unless they got some level Prosperity security, some level of enjoyment of life, but they get to the point of thinking broader. Now, some people early on to try to find their purpose. What's my firm has what's my purpose? I gotta find my ultimate purpose who said there's one freaking purpose. What did you get that delusion and why does it have to be so huge? I know like when I was a young kid I'd at this purpose statement person, my life is to be a passionate loving incredible creation of what God shows us.
Has to be serving all of humanity and lifting them and they went on and on now like what's my purpose? How can I help? I mean serving as what my purpose is, I don't need all this bullshit and that means I can do it when I introduced my saying a little, the mailman, I can do it in front of 50,000 people I can do it with my child.
Right. And there's lots of different purposes as you go through your life, but mostly I'm trying to get that. Damn, you figure out what the hell they're going to do. They haven't figured out, enjoy their life, your purpose will unfold if you do the right thing. So now to answer your question, precisely and specifically and short order, you need to put yourself in a position. If you're going to be successful is to have ideally your own business or a business where the more value you add, the more you earn. You can work for someone else and do that. If you have stock options, you could do that. If you've got bonus,
Says but to me, autonomy of you really want an extraordinary life, I believe this is just personal preference. This is my opinion, this isn't the truth for everyone.
Is, if you can find yourself in a place, where the more value you add, the more you can grow mentally, emotionally, spiritually, and financially, then you can write your own ticket, right? And so owning your own business to me, is one of the ways to do that or partnering with somebody in a business or working for somebody, but where they treat you as a partner, you get a piece of the business so you don't have to be only on your own but if you're going to grow you need to make whatever business you're partying. And if you work for somebody else, you got to think like an owner. Because if you do, you become one and if you think I can own and you're going to succeed, then you got a model.
People that are successful. It's like why we put this challenge together? It's not just me. We got about a dozen of the best people in the world, all different ways because they like all Tony can do this. But what about? Here's Jana kircher with her Cameron. What she's doing, make a couple million dollars a year, being a mom enjoying her life, right? So they get to meet them all and not just be inspired, but this is specifically how to do it because you know and I know there's you got to have that I didn't have 20 years ago or even 15 or 5 years ago. Some of it, but certainly not 30 years ago across the fortunate to stuff everything.
As for free. Now you put up a podcaster reach millions of people that was impossible in the stage of my life. So there are ways to LeapFrog because a technology that you want to take advantage of. So you want to model somebody, it's incredible. But then what's going to make that business work or not is to things. Do you understand who your ideal client is, you can't be a client to everybody. You got to know who's my, you can help everybody. But who's your ideal client? Who's the clients going to stay with you? When the economy gets bad? Because as you said,
Winter always comes. I was saying what you can then because I knew we had a bull market so long that we're going to have to have a bear Market, will usually have one every five years. We have this unbelievable long period of time where without having one. And I wanted people prepare because when things go down, is your greatest opportunity, right now, your greatest Economic Opportunity, your life is happening because we're coming out of winter. And we're not fully in springtime yet, although the economy is heating up and it's artificially heating up. They're going to pour so much money into it that you can be an idiot and do well.
This economy. But you want to take advantage of this time because when it goes back again because it will we can't just keep printing dollars forever or putting ones and zeros and computers without inflation. We're already starting to see it and most of you don't want inflation. Is I remember buying my first house at 18 years old. A Triplex at 18% interest. It's hard to make money at 18%. Yeah, I got like two and a half for people right now. It's different universes. So you got to be prepared. For whatever is coming in the way you do. That is Know Who You Are.
Your customers who you can add value to fall in love with them. What do they need? What they want when they ate and I fall in love with your product fall in love with them so you can keep meeting your needs and then come up with an irresistible offer. If you have those two things you're going to win, I mean I remember I saw there's a great little series out right now on like I say History Channel, they've done these Series in the past. You may have seen him Lewis like the the you know, the people that shaped America and they show like all the, you know, the guys that built Standard Oil, like the Rockefellers and so forth.
They doing one right now in the food that built America and it's fascinating. And so one of those stories was about the pizza business and I won't run it for you, but one of those was such a perfect example, is Domino's Pizza, he was going bankrupt. He couldn't figure out what the hell to do. We couldn't make any money, no matter what and then one day he had a problem, delivering, something. And somebody was pissed off and they go, I will not accept this pizza if it takes more than 30 minutes and he was and he heard it.
Emily tried on every call, Domino's Pizza. We deliver within 30 minutes or your pizza is free made an irresistible offer. Not just doubled over 30 minutes, but I will be penalize. You will get it for free. If you don't that offer turn dominoes from a losing company to the one of the most dominant pizza companies in the history of the world. Why having an irresistible offer and knowing who his client was? He went for kids in college, he targeted them because they ate more pizza and you can deliver more to the same dorm with more people. So he knew his idea.
Audience in. Who else? He wanted to serve, he came with irresistible offer then deal. Unbelievable business.
And this is one of the things you guys are teaching in the own your future challenge which if I want everyone listening or watching to sign up for this it's completely free. You can go to Louis house.com future it'll take you right there, you guys are doing this. Week-long challenge. You and our friend, Dean graciosa talking about how to build and scale and irresistible offer talking about how to build a business, a side Hustle,
Hustle, whatever it is using your knowledge and information to build something to earn something on the side that eventually you could take
it unique about this challenge. It's not just music. That's a bunch of people is we're going to use technology each step of the way each day. So you start to build a business that you can start to launch at the end because this technology can do it minutes. What used to take months or years and or if you already have a business, how to grow a dynamically. So, it's not just going to be sitting back with philosophy. We're going to be calling you. There's no charge for the program, the charges. You
To take uncomfortable action, each day, using a little bit of Technology with sure to do and then you're going to have something really at the end, not just
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But it's called the three truths and I like to make it a spin. This question, it's a hypothetical scenario. Imagine it's your last day on Earth many years away. You get to accomplish and live as long as you want to live, but eventually go to turn the lights off and for whatever reason, Tony, you've got to take all of your work with you. Your written words, your audio, the video no one has access to your content anymore. They steal the books out of people's homes and it goes with you to the next place. Hypothetically,
But you get to leave behind three things, you know, to be true. The three lessons you would share with the world and this is all we would have from your information. What would you say? Are those three lessons that you would share with your daughter or to the world? If this is all, we would have to remember you by
life, is not about me, life is about, we quality of life, is the quality of relationships in relationships are grown by giving, not by demanding, not by judging, I'd say second,
Love Is The Answer with strength. You have to have love and strength together, those two resources, anything can be transformed. Anything can be accomplished because with love and strength, you'll have a larger Vision. If it's true love and want to have a loved one in a sense of just trying to get something. I mean true love, which is about how can I give something but still having strength also. So you not run over and I'd say I'd say constant, never-ending learning will make life nothing interesting. But
But the meaningfulness will come because you'll have something to give and that will tie back to the first piece that I described. So, I mean, there's so much it sort of juice to three things. But I've taught my head, those who knew my first
three, I love those and Dean grazioso. He said, one of the greatest lessons you've taught him is about love and relationships and he said that you told him you feel love when you give it rather than when you receive it. And also in relationship, never keep score. And so I just wanted to mention that as something that
To has been impactful for him and so many of your friends that you've taught this to especially myself and relationships and understanding relationships. Before I ask the final question, I want to acknowledge you Tony, as I as I've done many times before, and I will continue to do for as long as you're alive for constantly being a symbol of inspiration to so many people for constantly showing up, you don't have to do this stuff anymore. You've done a million times over the work of helping so many people and the ability the amount of
of growth that you continue to have and wanting to serve at a higher level continues to inspire me like, you'll never know. And so I would acknowledge you for leading the way for for constantly serving so many people that will never know that you touch their lives directly because you're doing it. Not for them to know you're doing it on every area of life. I really appreciate who you are as a human. And my final question is, what is your definition of greatness?
I think greatness of service. I think great Services as a great life.
I think, you know, as you live your life and I'm fortunate enough to uncover this earlier in my life. Not because I'm such a good person. I think just because I love people and because I've been attracted really brilliant people. 20, 30 years. My senior who had been through all the patterns in the end. It's not what you get that's gonna make you happy. It's who you become, and it's who you've been able to touch and you know, so I think greatness is service. I think greatness is finding the way to do more for others than anybody else because that
Also, come back to you in Spades from the standpoint of your own sense of internal Pride, not external, but your own sense, like people could take away. Everything I have, they can't take away who I become as a man by my service and by my growth. So I think, I think purpose. And, and having a sense of progress, are the two things that create a great life. If you got a higher purpose in yourself, that's going to give you the motivation in the energy to drive. When everybody else is exhausted and you're exhausted. And if you're making progress
Rest, you'll feel the rewards that come from that. I think those two are twin powers in a, great
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Rhymes who said, you can waste your lives drawing lines or you can live
your life Crossing
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